Family

All of my entries are about Dyleva.  This entry is indirectly about Dyleva.

I find the concept of family a paradox.

Jeff swears up and down about what a tight knit family he has.  They are close; they do stuff together, communicate frequently, and are interactive.

He is not lying.  They are....with his mother's side.

We were out to dinner the other night and ran into his uncle, (his Dad's brother).  We were stumbling over introductions for our children, trying to explain how they were related to this man.

My family is no different.  Eva and I went to my aunt's house today, (My mother's sister).  My cousin, her son, was in the back room, yelling to me.  He didn't even come out to greet me, his cousin.  Eva started asking questions like who he is to her.  Then I thought of his brothers and sisters, who had children.  Dyleva has a whole load of cousins out there that they have never met...from both sides of the family.

This will make the dating years very scary for me.....

So I got to thinking, family is family.   How do we "choose" who we are "close to."
Obviously, at least in our families, it is not equal.  But it honestly couldn't be....there are so many cousins.  

So that old saying, "You can choose your friends, but not your family," is not necesarily true.  Clearly, you can choose which family that you want to be your friends.